Love Should Grow Like a Plant Not be Hunted Like An Animal

So I don't mind that people show off their things on Facebook--I do the same thing. I'm doing my usually Facebook browsing when I notice an old friend who I know who has been doing quite a bit of internet dating post that a "someone special" surprised her at lunch when she came home and found a dozen of long-stem red roses on her kitchen table.

Yes, a dozen red roses sounds oh-so-romantic and sweet and thoughtful. But why? I know that she has not known this guy for long. Why does he need to give her red roses? Doesn't it seem like he's trying really hard to turn on the charm? Like he's trying really hard to win her over? Should a guy NEED to give a girl a dozen roses to win her over? I vote no.

I've met my share of guys and from my experience I know to be wary of those certain guys that text "Good Morning Gorgeous" the first two weeks you know them. The ones that tell you how beautiful and sexy you are. The ones that do and say the things that make you tingle all over and your heart flutter out of your chest. Oh they win you over all right. They suck you in until you're too far gone smitten by their intoxicating wit and charm.

They are your magical prince--just like in the movies. Wouldn't this be a lovely story to tell my grand children of how their grand father and I met? It's all happy, until it's isn't. Slowly those "Good morning beautifuls" become less and less, until you are lucky if you get one phone call in a day or even one text. The NEED to win you over is no longer there.

Men have instinct in them from way back in the caveman days to hunt and chase. It's their nature. If they have nothing to chase then they lose their purpose. Slowly they lose interest. They may still find use in you--like after hunting animals it is proper to not let any piece go to waste. That would be ungrateful to the Gods and Natives American's may say. But what do they do when that animals is almost used up? They find something else to hunt. They may use the same tactics they used in their hunting before i.e. a dozen roses, sometimes others thing depending on the situation and what lures the animals. Every hunter/man has a set of tactics that he uses to capture us. By now us as women should be able to distinguish some of these well-use tools, sweet nothings in your ears, back massages, dinner, red roses, etc.

I don't mean to be a "Debbie Downer," but I have had too many disappointments and things end badly to not play it safe. I've been cautious before and STILL fallen into men's traps. When you are hesitant and wary they will see it and they will work even harder being extra charming. All it takes is a few weeks of extreme charm and you are hooked. But not that's not for me...Thia scenario will only bring short-term joy.

Personally, I would like my fondness of a man to be gradually. I want to be more like a plant where it starts as a small seed planted and slowly grows and blooms. The plant, unlike the animals is more sure and reliable. A plant can last and withstand time. It can flourish and continue to produce fruit year after year after year. Unlike the beast that the man hunts will only satisfy for so long until they need to hunt again.

Slowly and steady... No extreme tactics needed just a little attention and care. That's what a good relationship should consist of. The thrill of the hunt is exciting, but there's nothing wrong with a certainty of something just as good for you. That will provide for you and make you healthy and well. I think this all makes sense.... Love should be like a plant, something you grow slowly and pay attention to and have faith in. It should nourish a whole life through.