Love Should Grow Like a Plant Not be Hunted Like An Animal

So I don't mind that people show off their things on Facebook--I do the same thing. I'm doing my usually Facebook browsing when I notice an old friend who I know who has been doing quite a bit of internet dating post that a "someone special" surprised her at lunch when she came home and found a dozen of long-stem red roses on her kitchen table.

Yes, a dozen red roses sounds oh-so-romantic and sweet and thoughtful. But why? I know that she has not known this guy for long. Why does he need to give her red roses? Doesn't it seem like he's trying really hard to turn on the charm? Like he's trying really hard to win her over? Should a guy NEED to give a girl a dozen roses to win her over? I vote no.

I've met my share of guys and from my experience I know to be wary of those certain guys that text "Good Morning Gorgeous" the first two weeks you know them. The ones that tell you how beautiful and sexy you are. The ones that do and say the things that make you tingle all over and your heart flutter out of your chest. Oh they win you over all right. They suck you in until you're too far gone smitten by their intoxicating wit and charm.

They are your magical prince--just like in the movies. Wouldn't this be a lovely story to tell my grand children of how their grand father and I met? It's all happy, until it's isn't. Slowly those "Good morning beautifuls" become less and less, until you are lucky if you get one phone call in a day or even one text. The NEED to win you over is no longer there.

Men have instinct in them from way back in the caveman days to hunt and chase. It's their nature. If they have nothing to chase then they lose their purpose. Slowly they lose interest. They may still find use in you--like after hunting animals it is proper to not let any piece go to waste. That would be ungrateful to the Gods and Natives American's may say. But what do they do when that animals is almost used up? They find something else to hunt. They may use the same tactics they used in their hunting before i.e. a dozen roses, sometimes others thing depending on the situation and what lures the animals. Every hunter/man has a set of tactics that he uses to capture us. By now us as women should be able to distinguish some of these well-use tools, sweet nothings in your ears, back massages, dinner, red roses, etc.

I don't mean to be a "Debbie Downer," but I have had too many disappointments and things end badly to not play it safe. I've been cautious before and STILL fallen into men's traps. When you are hesitant and wary they will see it and they will work even harder being extra charming. All it takes is a few weeks of extreme charm and you are hooked. But not that's not for me...Thia scenario will only bring short-term joy.

Personally, I would like my fondness of a man to be gradually. I want to be more like a plant where it starts as a small seed planted and slowly grows and blooms. The plant, unlike the animals is more sure and reliable. A plant can last and withstand time. It can flourish and continue to produce fruit year after year after year. Unlike the beast that the man hunts will only satisfy for so long until they need to hunt again.

Slowly and steady... No extreme tactics needed just a little attention and care. That's what a good relationship should consist of. The thrill of the hunt is exciting, but there's nothing wrong with a certainty of something just as good for you. That will provide for you and make you healthy and well. I think this all makes sense.... Love should be like a plant, something you grow slowly and pay attention to and have faith in. It should nourish a whole life through.

Being a Quitter is Not Always a Bad Thing

Quitter, it has such a negative connotation. No one wants to be a quitter, right? Wrong! There are many perfect examples of quitting being a positive thing; quitting smoking, quitting drugs, quitting alcohol, quitting an abusive relationship and lastly quitting doing something you hate. All these action of quitting are not bad and therefore neither is quitting.

So somehow throughout history society dubbed this action negative, instilling a fear in the hearts of many people NOT to quit anything. Take for instant quitting a relationship that is detrimental. You can't just give in the minute thing turn sour, no, you will be a quitter. People will think that you didn't try hard enough, you didn't care enough, or you just didn't love that person enough. It makes you feel horrible about yourself, makes you feel weak and inferior. But why? Why if something is not right in your heart should you have to feel so much shame? Because society has created this idea that you should.

This is NOT to say that it is acceptable to just give up whenever the going gets tough, because something are worth working for. But if there is that little voice in the back of your mind telling you this is not right for me, well you should follow it, regardless of what everyone else might think. After all, it should be about how you feel and not how other people see you. Like the great Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." The only person that can control your happiness is you and no one can tell you what you should want and what SHOULD make you happy. They can never be inside you mind and they may never understand how you feel. They might try, but no one can truly comprehend your passions and your desires, but they can learn to just accept you for who you are what's in your heart. You should not feel ashamed for wanting more and never settling for less than you deserve. Some may call you ungrateful, but I just call it smart and ambitious.

So what about quitting a job--something that can be a means of support? What should you do then? Should you risk being poor for the sake of your own sanity and well being. Maybe, you can replace a job, but can't go back undo the misery that you endured doing something that you no longer loved. Especially when you work so hard to be unappreciated and taken for granted. "No! This place is not for you," Dr. Seuss, Oh! The Places You Go. People tell you not to quit--quitting is bad. But think about it? You have to quit doing something in order to do something else. How can you do something you love when your busy doing something you hate? It only seems logical, that as hard as it may be to do, quitting might be the better option. Quitting will make you free to do bigger and better things. Things you DON'T want to quit. Quitting may just be the only way to find out your true potential.

Blessing With a Mask

So I got suspended for the restaurant today, which basically means that I'm fired, at least I'm pretty sure I am. I know that's kind of a negative way of looking at it, but to me it's the most realistic. I am a little bummer and definitely a little worried about how I'll be managing to pay the bills, because my other part-time job is not going to cut it. But I have to remain hopeful and positive that bigger and better thing will come. I have more potential than I am fulfilling. I need to find a way to harness my potential.

Tonight I've been a little confused on how I should feel. I have gone through a wave of emotions. To be honest I'm excited a little bit. Without working at the restaurant I will be able to do things I never get to do. Like going to Mother's Day and being able to stay the whole day. I might even get to see the fireworks on 4th of July! I'm SO excited about that--you don't even know.

There are so many things in life that I have been missing out on because I always have to work. Little things that other people with 9-5 jobs might take for granted. So I know that this firing is a blessing. I don't know what I'm going to do yet with my life, but I hope that something will lead me through the right path.

Life has thrown me some twist in life and I'm trying so hard to take them and roll with the punches. No matter what... I will find love and success.

I Have a Business Idea

Hm... I have this business idea and I think that it's a good one. It wouldn't hurt to try it. I think I should pursue it. It's going to take a little work, but I think it may pay off. I will elaborate later. Just wanted to write this as a reminder to pursue it. :)

Wouldn't it be nice?

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